Marriages are made in Heaven

Before we discuss anything about a successful marriage, let's first discuss “What actually marriage is?” According to the established opinions/ theories, “Marriage is a relationship between a man and a woman which allows them to live together after the completion of a host of customs and rituals after which they become husband and wife.” These customs and rituals vary from one religion to another and are based on the beliefs and practices of certain religion. It marks the beginning of a new conjugal life which ultimately includes a host of responsibilities for the husband and the wife. In a broader sense marriage is accepted as a social ceremony which combines not only two people of opposite sex but two families also. This ceremony is attended and witnessed by the relatives and friends of both the sides.

"Remember that a successful marriage depends on two things: finding the right person and being the right person" quote. Do we really know the actual definition of a successful marriage? If not then, let's try to look at it carefully and see what conclusion we can draw. We often hear people saying that someone somewhere is made for you and the day you come across that person you start feeling that he or she is the one you have been looking for. But later we find that due to lack of understanding, emotional and mental compatibility they move apart. So how can we say that they were the perfect match since they didn't give any effort to understand each other? So it's very important for you to know your partner. There are people who get attracted physically towards their counterpart and fill with love and admiration for each other and eventually end up getting married. But later on when they realize that their sentiments and emotions are not matching perfectly, they get separated easily without a second thought. In today's generation we see these incidents more compare to earlier generation. And this is more due to the changing social scenario. With so many things to divert your attention you really don't know what to do.

Marriage is not just coming together of two individuals. There is much more to it. To sustain a marriage it is important that there must be equal effort from both sides then only a marriage can be considered as successful and can continue forever. A successful marriage is like a good recipe whose main ingredients are love, faith, commitment, understanding, concern and togetherness. If the couple can include these aspects in their married life only then they can find happiness in their married life and can share their love, thoughts and happiness through the remaining part of their life without the slightest of hesitation. Andre Maurois once aptly said, "A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short." This statement is too true to be disbelieved or turned down. When we talk about mental and emotional compatibility between husband and wife, we have experienced that not only in the case of arranged marriage this problem exist quite naturally because both of them were unknown to each other before their marriage but even after many years of courtship in love marriages, this problem exist because when we meet before marriage we are at our best to impress the other person. And we start accepting each other the way we like to see each other. But gradually after marriage when we slip into our natural self that time we have to accept each other as we are. And in most of the cases the real self is not what we wanted to see and only then begins the conflict and contradiction with the person whom we have loved and with whom we have spent our life. So it's important that whenever you love a person, love him or her way he or she is and not the way you wish him or her to be. Simply we may conclude that we should accept our male or female counterpart in their true self and expect nothing extraordinary from him or her. Then only we can be happy throughout our life.

A happy married life calls for constant commitment and concern for each other. There are few small and minute aspects, which we tend to forget in our married life, as we get busy with the daily routine work and get less time to attend to these trifles. So at times it is important to indulge in those minute details of a married life, which will constantly remind each other of the love and concern being present. We can conclude by the quote of Barnett Brickner, which says it, all that "Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate."